Chapter 12 - Recruiting and Stats

by Jaci Rae

(This is only a sample of Chapter 12 as with all the samples here, there is a lot more detail in the actual book, Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown at a Time. This chapter in particular was based on the surveys and actual words used.)

When the Chicago Bears are recruiting top players for their team, they base their decisions on a player's statistics and determine how much they are willing to pay for the contract of that player. When you choose a woman, you are essentially recruiting her based on her stats.

A woman's "stats" may be derived from such criteria as her appearance, body type, sense of humor, background and education, to name just a few. This process is similar for women as they choose men.

Below is a poll taken from men and women of all ages and backgrounds on what they look for in the "stats" of men as well as what turns them off. The results of this survey are based on interviews with three hundred women randomly selected over the course of a year and a half. While there are a few additional "stats" that I would add to my personal list, this is a poll, and remains unbiased.

In presenting this information, I am just stating the facts of the poll conducted; I am NOT making judgments. In my original book, I left out some of this data, but because I thought that it was important enough to inform men about what women really think I've included it in this version.

Continued polling has shown it to be overwhelming in evidence. As I said earlier, this book, while geared for men, is also important for women. So women.don't feel left out here. I also conducted a survey of a little over one hundred men, here is what they had to say about women and the "stats" that they find important!

The Almost Perfect Female

• A woman who takes care of her body.
• A woman who is secure in who she is.
• A woman who has a stable career, not just a job.
• A woman who is clean.
• A woman who has it together emotionally.
• A woman who has her own set of friends and doesn't need to always be with a man.

The "Don't Go There Ever" Woman

• A woman who doesn't take care of herself or doesn't take pride in her appearance.
• A woman who is hygienically challenged.
• A woman who is clingy.
• A woman who is emotionally needy.
• A woman who is gossipy.
• A woman who doesn't support her man; a naggy woman.
• A woman who sleeps around.
• A woman who plays head games.
• A woman who doesn't know what she wants and can't make up her mind.
• A woman who is financially needy.

The Almost Perfect Mate

• A man who is hygienically clean and well-groomed.
• A man who is confident in himself and comfortable in his skin.
• A man who is financially stable.
• A man who has a good sense of humor.
• A man who is intelligent.
• A man who is well-mannered. (E.g. opens doors, introduces you to his family and friends, not crass, etc.)
• A man who is physically fit and healthy.
• A man who is a good listener, interested in who their partner is and what she has to say.
• A man who is conscientious and patient about her needs in bed.
• A man who follows through on verbal commitments.

The "Don't Go There Ever" Man

• A man who does not follow through on commitments.
• A man who is conceited or arrogant.
• A man who behaves in a lewd or lascivious manner. Pornography and strip clubs do not appeal to the majority of women. They may quietly put up with it, pretending that it's okay and even joining in his "fun, " but they secretly resent him for it. This resentment will rear its ugly head eventually. On this point, 89% of the women polled agreed. Believe it! When I asked why, if they secretly resented the men, they still participated instead of speaking up, they said that they wanted to please the man in their life. However, most said eventually that it progressively turned them off and they lost interest sexually as this type of behavior continued.
• A man who is hygienically challenged. (Brush your tongue because it holds an immense amount of bacteria and odor!)
• A man who smokes or drinks heavily.
• A man who uses the toilet brush technique when kissing his partner. (see below)
• A man who plays emotional games.

And, finally, one of the biggest turn off's? A man who dates several women at once. I have heard men call it, "serial dating." This instantly signals to a woman that the man lacks self-confidence and needs constant assurance. Even more importantly, this type of man probably would never be monogamous or trustworthy, basically remaining insecure and continuing his pattern of behavior even in a "committed" relationship.

Here are the actual words used in the man's survey listed in the book:

1. What are the top five things that women do that make you crazy or get on your nerves?

Manipulate.

"Two words... MOOD SWINGS!"

"Say... 'Whatever YOU want to do...' when truth is, that translates into 'you had better do what I WANT to do and you BETTER know what that is!'"

"Complain too much."

There is much more to this chapter, but because of copyrights laws we are restricted in what we are allowed to post on the web.

Below is a list of what you can expect to find in, Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown at a Time. You can purchase Jaci's book here, using the links provided or by going to most major brick and mortar stores such as: Barnes and Noble, Borders or many major books stores across the USA and throughout the world (it is translated into many languages). Additionally, you can purchase the book at amazon.com.

TABLE OF CONTENTS

FORWARD
CHAPTER 1 - Stepping Into the Stadium
CHAPTER 2 - Getting onto the Field - Shedding a Little Light on the Complex World of Male - Female Relationships. Why we are the Way we are
CHAPTER 3 - Avoiding the Defensive Lineman and the Backfield
CHAPTER 4 - Learning to Avoid Incomplete Passes - Communication
CHAPTER 5 - Learning to Key - Women Feel Their Words, Hear Them
CHAPTER 6 - Hitch and Go Doesn't Work in Relationships - Do What You Say: Say What You Do
CHAPTER 7 - The Huddle - Emotional Word Pictures
CHAPTER 8 - Getting Benched - the Difference Between a Man's "No" and a Woman's "No"
CHAPTER 9 - Making the First Round Draft Pick with Romance
CHAPTER 10 - Learning the Playbook - the Memory Game
CHAPTER 11 - The Team - True Intimacy, the Road to Becoming Best Friends
CHAPTER 12 - Recruiting and Stats - Things Women Need You to Know
CHAPTER 13 - The Chemistry of Love - Scientific Facts
CHAPTER 14 - Illegal Procedures - Women in the Wallet, Women in the Frames
CHAPTER 15 - Adding Value to your Team - Spending and Investing Time
CHAPTER 16 - Looking for a Draw Play - Non-Verbal Communication
CHAPTER 17 - The Last Pass - How and Where To Meet The Woman or Man In Your Life if You Don't Currently Have Anyone to Score a Touchdown With
CHAPTER 18 - Getting into the End Zone Consistently - the Final Word
CHAPTER 19 - Relationship Advice from Legendary NFL Clutch-Kickers
CHAPTER 20 - Football Definitions, Rules, Penalties and Fun Football Stats
CHAPTER 21 - Epilogue

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You may know Jaci Rae. She has toured the globe, is a celebrated radio show host, sought after speaker and a passionate advocate of positive relationships.

It was during one of her shows that Jaci discovered another true passion in her life - finding out what made relationships truly work. She went on to study psychology and today, her knowledge and life-learning's about successful relationships are helping men and women find and keep love. Today, her books are helping men and women live loving happy lives. From dating and meeting women, to marriage, and divorce, Jaci can help you stop fumbling and start scoring the love you deserve.

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